When we experience rejection and failure it is NATURAL to think about it. We are going to want to process it and as you have seen from my other principles I am a big fan of this. We need to process and we need to think. But what many of us experience post rejection and failure is actually rumination and THIS can be tough.
What is rumination? Rumination is when our thinking becomes a bit more obsessive, persistent and repetitive. Generally rumination has a negative tone and it creates anxiety for us. For me, it evokes physiological symptoms like an increase in my heart rate and feeling on edge. Rumination can be exhausting. But what differentiates rumination from processing is that it’s not really processing. You’re getting stuck. I love this description from Elizabeth Scott PhD (2020) “What distinguishes rumination from productive emotional processing or searching for solutions is that rumination doesn’t generate new ways of thinking, new...
Your mind is busy?
Mine too. Welcome to the club. Meditation is just for you!
This is something I hear often when I speak about Meditation to both athletes and coaches.
The human brain is fascinating. Its power and capacity seize to amaze me and it is constantly on the go. We won’t go 3 seconds without “thinking” and this is what makes us human. However for many, this is the reason that they stay away from Meditation.
“I don’t like to be with my own thoughts in stillness.”
“I can’t sit still for very long.”
“I can’t deal with the quiet.”
“I get too antsy and I think about everything that I should be doing.”
“I can’t get my mind to shut off.”
“My brain just feels all over the place.”
All of these are valid.
In my opinion, these responses are all the more reason to try meditation. It’s a common...