“The motivation of self compassion arises from love, while the motivation of self criticism arises from fear. Love is more powerful than fear.”
Self Compassion is hard and it is very counterintuitive to how we typically operate as humans. Simply put, we’re a negative species. We have a negativity bias that serves us well up until a point. Oftentimes what happens when we face rejection or failure our self criticism kicks in. It can be quite addictive and spark a spiral of very critical self talk and rumination. If we failed it means we did something wrong so let’s beat ourselves up so that we can be better next time. If we get rejected, let’s critique ourselves as to WHY we weren’t enough.
Been there. Done that. It doesn’t work. In fact it makes things infinitely worse.
Especially in sport, there is definitely an attitude that if we fail we need to get back to the drawing board so we can figure out how to...
Your mind is busy?
Mine too. Welcome to the club. Meditation is just for you!
This is something I hear often when I speak about Meditation to both athletes and coaches.
The human brain is fascinating. Its power and capacity seize to amaze me and it is constantly on the go. We won’t go 3 seconds without “thinking” and this is what makes us human. However for many, this is the reason that they stay away from Meditation.
“I don’t like to be with my own thoughts in stillness.”
“I can’t sit still for very long.”
“I can’t deal with the quiet.”
“I get too antsy and I think about everything that I should be doing.”
“I can’t get my mind to shut off.”
“My brain just feels all over the place.”
All of these are valid.
In my opinion, these responses are all the more reason to try meditation. It’s a common...